Whose gaze are you performing for?
Tell me, which is your locus of control?
External Locus of Control - Believing your value and worth come from forces outside of you.
Internal Locus of Control - Assigning value to yourself.
In personality psychology, locus of control is the degree to which people believe that they have control over the outcome of events in their lives, as opposed to external forces beyond their control. There are two types of locus of control, internal or external. An external locus of control supports a belief that one is helpless, without blame, and not in control of one's successes and failures.
Tell me, whose gaze are you performing for?
Because if it isn't your own, then your focus is misdirected.
You get to decide your worth, your value, and how loveable you are.
The gaze of others is there for their consumption of your already predetermined greatness, not to assign a value to it.
So next time you find yourself at the mercy of others' opinions (whether it's people that are close to you, social media followers, or by way of the expectations that society imposes upon you), remember to FOCUS IN.
You get to determine your worth, only you.